And love is freeing …


This paper I make after enjoy Iftar, with some cigarettes and ofcourse a glass of black coffee, as usual. And as usual, there are also feelings back in the footsteps of earlier times. Time, when there are a lot of things pass and leaving such meanings as well as in the plenary. A time where, love it feels as well and truly alive, in fact it feels terrific momentum amongst the refugee barracks, a remote village, the area of disasters that are overflowing with overwhelming sea of tears and sadness, and … that’s why there’s always love and animate there.
Not mere poetic words, and words that always land prices from the mouth of the poets and poet. This is a time that is terrific, with whom love is really freeing and emancipation for every course to close to her, to always feel shady and peaceful, and isn’t love indeed created Lord in order to apply. Thus, there is hell what, so now with the pangs of love are often injured?, what’s wrong with him?

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Jogja, Twilight efflux, seventh full moon 2012

Share is light, lucky people who use conscience & his senses, so with that he could appreciate life and share it to any others. Have congratulations on breaking the fasting month Indonesia ….

Indonesia Our Beautiful Country


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About life & How to be Meaningfull


I got this from a facebook share from a friend, it’s really touching and I think this is useful and will have a strong meaning to all of you read and learn …

Married or not you should read this…

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Regards

The Adventure Quote


“Because it’s there”
— George L Mallory, British Mountaineer

“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”
–Edmund Hillary New Zealander mountain climber and Antarctic Explorer Famous for being first to succesfully climb Mount Everest

“You don’t have to be a fantastic hero to do certain things – to compete. You can be just an ordinary chap, sufficiently motivated to reach challenging goals.”
Sir Edmund Hillary

“No mountain is worth even a finger or a toe to frostbite. Return home is real success. Summit is only bonus”.
Alan Hinkes, British 8000er meter climber

“It was our preparation, knowledge and experience that kept us alive.”
–Rachel Kelsey, South African born British Mountaineer

“There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.”
Freya Stark (French adventurer and explorer 1893-1993)

“I am prepared to go anywhere, provided it be forward.”
–David Livingstone, Scottish missionary and explorer, 1813-1874

“The best way to observe a fish is to become a fish”
Jacques Cousteau (French Explorer, 1910-1997)

“To awaken quite alone in a strange town is one of the pleasantest sensations in the world.”
–Freya Stark (French adventurer and explorer 1893-1993)

“Nobody climbs mountains for scientific reasons. Science is used to raise money for the expeditions, but you really climb for the hell of it.”
–Edmund Hillary

Mountains are not fair or unfair – they are just dangerous.
Reinhold Messner, Tyroll seven summitter

Unusual travel suggestions are dancing lessons from God.
–Kurt Vonnegut, American writer

The mountains will always be there, the trick is to make sure you are too.
–Hervey Voge

You’ve climbed the highest mountain in the world. What’s left ? It’s all downhill from there. You’ve got to set your sights on something higher than Everest.
Willi Unsoeld, First American Everest Summitter

Near the foot of the mountain we visited a yogi who dwelled in a hollow tunneled beneath a boulder. He pondered our notion of climbing Shivling and said: “First travel, then struggle, finally calm.”
Greg Child, Australian born American Climber/Adventure photographer&author

” – You guys going up ? – Yes, yes, we go up – You may be going a lot higher than you think!”
Don Whillans (British mountaineer), to a Japanese party, while descending Eiger

disana tidak ada kematian, tidak ada awal ataupun akhir, tidak ada masalah apapun, karena disana adalah singasana yang Maha Agung dlam kedigdayaan alam semesta raya.

–Siegei Pandawa

A Man & Himself


A man can be himself only so long as he is alone. A man’s delight in looking forward to and hoping for some particular satisfaction is a part of the pleasure flowing out of it, enjoyed in advance.

A man’s face as a rule says more, and more interesting things, than his mouth, for it is a compendium of everything his mouth will ever say, in that it is the monogram of all this man’s thoughts and aspirations.  

All truth passes through three stages. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.  Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people.  As the biggest library if it is in disorder is not as useful as a small but well-arranged one, so you may accumulate a vast amount of knowledge but it will be of far less value than a much smaller amount if you have not thought it over for yourself.

Quote of The Day


 

Lebih baik kita mengingat kekurangan dan kesalahan kita dan segera berusaha melakukan perbaikan pd diri kita daripada kita selalu mengingat kebaikan kita ,
Krn bila kita mengingat kesalahan kita, kita akan berusaha utk tidak melakukannya lagi , dan jika kita terus menerus mengingat kebaikan kita, maka kita akan menjadi sombong dan cenderung lupa diri serta tak mau care lagi pada org lain krn menganggap dirinya sdh sangat baik .

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Much better we remember our shortcomings and errors trying to do repair and immediately on ourselves than we always remember our good, Because when we remember our mistakes, we’ll try not to do it again, and if we continue to remember our pleasurable, then we will become arrogant and tend to forget themselves and not care anymore another because it considers himself has been very excellent.

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Jika kamu menghabiskan hidupmu menunggu badai,
kamu tidak akan pernah menikmati sinar mentari.

-If you spend your lifetime waiting for the storm, you will never enjoy the sunshine.

 

KESENDIRIAN


Kesendirian adalah salah satu pengalaman hidup yang paling menyedihkan. Tanpa sahabat yang mendampingi membuat kita kecil hati dan mengalami perasaan terasing. Akan terasa lebih sukar lagi bila situasi sulit ini datang dan tak seorangpun yang mau menolong atau memberi semangat pada kita…

Kadang situasi ini terus berjalan dan seakan-akan tidak pernah berhenti. Saat seperti inilah kita memerlukan kekuatan untuk bertahan.

Terkadang situasi ini terbentuk dgn sendirinya , bisa juga terbentuk melalui pihak lain yg mmg sengaja ingin menyakiti kita.

Karena kesendirian itu sesungguhnya menjadi kesempatan yang sangat baik untuk membangun karakter yang teruji dalam diri kita, melatih kita untuk selalu Mandiri dan hanya bergantung kepada-Nya ( apapun Agama & Kepercayaan anda ) .

Ketika kita benar-benar sendiri dan orang lain tidak peduli atau tidak mau menolong,maka disaat itulah kita ini Benar2 diuji oleh Keadaan .

Jika kita Lolos dari Ujian itu maka disitulah kita akan merasakan Hasil dari jerih payah kita .
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